AM I WITH THE RIGHT PARTNER?

Relationship

During a seminar, a woman asked,” How do I know if I am with the right person?”

The author then noticed that there was a large man sitting next to her so he said, “It depends. Is that your partner?” In all seriousness, she answered “How do you know?” Let me answer this question because the chances are good that it’s weighing on your mind replied the author.

Here’s the answer.

Every relationship has a cycle… In the beginning; you fall in love with your partner. You anticipate their calls, want their touch, and like their idiosyncrasies. Falling in love wasn’t hard. In fact, it was a completely natural and spontaneous experience. You didn’t have to DO anything. That’s why it’s called “falling” in love.

People in love sometimes say, “I was swept of my feet.”Picture the expression. It implies that you were just standing there; doing nothing, and then something happened TO YOU.

Falling in love is a passive and spontaneous experience. But after a few months or years of being together, the euphoria of love fades. It’s a natural cycle of EVERY relationship.

Slowly but surely, phone calls become a bother (if they come at all), touch is not always welcome (when it happens), and your spouse’s idiosyncrasies, instead of being cute, drive you nuts. The symptoms of this stage vary with every relationship; you will notice a dramatic difference between the initial stage when you were in love and a much duller or even angry subsequent stage.

At this point, you and/or your partner might start asking, “Am I with the right person?” And as you reflect on the euphoria of the love you once had, you may begin to desire that experience with someone else. This is when relationships breakdown.

The key to succeeding in a relationship is not finding the right person; it’s learning to love the person you found.

People blame their partners for their unhappiness and look outside for fulfillment. Extramarital fulfillment comes in all shapes and sizes.

Infidelity is the most common. But sometimes people turn to work, a hobby, friendship, excessive TV, or abusive substances. But the answer to this dilemma does NOT lie outside your relationship. It lies within it.

I’m not saying that you couldn’t fall in love with someone else. You could. And TEMPORARILY you’d feel better. But you’d be in the same situation a few years later.

Because (listen carefully to this):

The key to succeeding in a Relationship is not finding the right person; it’s learning to love the Person you found.

SUSTAINING love is not a passive or spontaneous experience. You have to work on it day in and day out. It takes time, effort, and energy. And most importantly, it demands WISDOM. You have to know WHAT TO DO to make it work. Make no mistake about it.

Love is NOT a mystery. There are specific things you can do (with or without your partner), Just as there are physical laws Of the universe (such as gravity), there are also laws for relationships. If you know how to apply these laws, the results are predictable.

Love is therefore a “decision”. Not just a feeling.

Remember this always: God determines who walks into your life. It is up to you to decide who you let walk away, who you let stay, and who you refuse to let GO..

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A Poem About Prayer

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My soul usually weeps and my heart always cries
When I think of the sorrow and grief,
That can come to a man who won’t even try
To Kneel and ask God for relief

We all have our pains and troubles to bear
Each minute of every day
And the Adversary’s the kind who’ll always be there
To tell us we needn’t pray

He wants us to quit, to give up the ghost
To darken God’s shining ray
By making us think the battle is lost
And it’s God who darkened our day

But, this I can say with all the strength of my soul
The Lord’s not the one who has moved
It’s just part of the way to put our names on the roll
Of those whom our God has approved

We all must be tested some time in our life
So He’ll know if we really care
But He’ll never give us the pain or the strife
We have not the strength to bear.

So when the Adversary does come to lead you astray
Look to your God through prayer
And when you’ve survived the trials of the day
You will find He was always there.

The Business of Staying Young

Don’t Worry Be Happy!


I’ve something to say to you older folks, and you young folks listen too-
For what I’m about to say, will someday apply to you.

I know that some of you older folks are happily retired,
And have no ties to bind you, and work is no longer required.

So you’re sitting around in idleness, each day becomes a bore, you’re
beginning to start thinking, there’s nothing worth living for.

You’d like to be in some business, but think it’s too late to begin,
Well, I’ll tell you about a business, that all of you can be in.

Be in the business of staying young, make staying young a career,
Don’t live in the past; plan a future: look forward to each added year.
Don’t sit around and sigh, and let the world pass you by,
Get with it, and stay with it, all you have to do is to try.

Be willing to forget yourself, for at least once in a while,
Place yourself second, and cause someone else to smile.
Kindness pays a thousand fold, this fact is more than true,
Try doing a favor here and there, and it will work for you.

Be willing to admit mistakes, humility is always grand,
The humble people are the ones that need a helping hand.
Be willing to work for what is right however rough the way,
For in the end the righteous always have the final say.

This life can be wonderful, tender and thrilling,
You can always find happiness, that is if you’re willing.
There’s a place for you in this world, work that needs to be done,
So make up your mind you’re not too old to try to help someone.

I’ve been in the business of staying young since I hit the forty mark,
And it’s a wonderful business, in which all of us can embark.
It gives you that happy feeling of starting your life anew,
But like any other business, it requires time and attention too!

So be in the business of staying young, and the heights of joy you will reach,
Make staying young your new career, and practice what you preach.
Age can be a frightening thing, if you let yourself fear it…
You can’t help being up in years, but need not be down in spirit.
Take pride in your appearance, always look up to par,
It’s a way of making others forget just how old you are.

I know I’m not indestructible, time is taking its toll,
But I have a goal to reach, and I know I’m not too old.
So get busy and be useful each day of your life on this earth
with your talents and your efforts, find a way to prove your worth.
And be grateful that you’re living in a world of youth today,
And you, too, can be youthful, if you think and live that way.

Always be serene and gentle: if in this life things don’t go your way,
Turn your left cheek, and be happy, to the unkind words that people say.
We’re living in a world that needs us, though it’s filled with envy, sin and strife.
Let’s help make it a better place, so all can plainly see,
That each hour we spend here, is part of our eternity.
So let us live from day to day, while here upon this earth,
To do someone a golden deed, and our duty let us not shirk.
-Author unknown

THE RULES FOR BEING HUMAN

Ohm Shanti ~ Ohm Peace

HANDED DOWN FROM ANCIENT SANSKRIT

1. YOU WILL RECEIVE A BODY.
You may like it or not, but it will be yours for the entire period round.

2. YOU WILL LEARN LESSONS.
You are enrolled in a full-time, informal school called life. Each day in this school you will have the opportunity to learn lessons. You may like the lessons or think them irrelevant and stupid.

3. THERE ARE NO MISTAKES, ONLY LESSONS.
Growth is a process of trial and error, experimentation. The “failed” experiments are as much a part of the process as the experiment that ultimately works.

4. A LESSON IS REPEATED UNTIL IT IS LEARNED.
A lesson will be presented to you in various forms until you have learned it, then you can go on the next lesson.

5. LEARNING LESSONS DOES NOT END,
There is no part of life that does not contain its lessons. If you are alive, there are lessons to be learned.

6. “THERE” IS NO BETTER THAN ‘HERE.’
When your “there” has become “here,” you will simply obtain another ‘there’ that will, again look better than ‘here.’

7. OTHERS ARE MERELY MIRRORS OF YOU
You cannot love or hate something about another person unless it reflects to you something you love or hate about yourself.

8. WHAT YOU MAKE OF YOUR LIFE IS UP TO YOU.
You have all the tools and resources you need, what you do with them is up to you. The choice is yours.

9. THE ANSWERS LIE INSIDE YOU.
The answers to life’s questions lie inside you. All you need to do is look, listen, and trust.

Be Thankful Everyday….

There was a blind girl who hated herself because she was blind. She hated everyone, except her loving boyfriend. He was always there for her. She told her boyfriend, ‘If I could only see the world, I will marry you.’ One day, someone donated a pair of eyes to her. When the bandages came off, she was able to see everything, including her boyfriend. He asked her, ‘Now that you can see the world, will you marry me?’ The girl looked at her boyfriend and saw that he was blind. The sight of his closed eyelids shocked her. She hadn’t expected that. The thought of looking at them the rest of her life led her to refuse to marry him. Her boyfriend left her in tears and days later wrote a note to her saying: ‘Take good care of your eyes, my dear, for before they were yours, they were mine.’ This is how the human brain often works when our status changes. Only a very few remember what life was like before, and who was always by their side in the most painful situations.

Life Is a Gift
Today before you say an unkind word –
Think of someone who can’t speak.
Before you complain about the taste of your food –
Think of someone who has nothing to eat.
Before you complain about your husband or wife –
Think of someone who’s asking GOD to provide a suitable companion.
Today before you complain about life –
Think of someone who went too early to heaven.
Before you complain about your children –
Think of someone who desires children but They are not able to have any.
Before you argue about your dirty house someone didn’t clean or sweep –
Think of the people who are living in the streets.
Before whining about the distance you drive –
Think of someone who walks the same distance with their feet.
And when you are tired and complain about your job –
Think of the unemployed, the disabled, and those who wish they had your job.
But before you think of pointing the finger or condemning another –
Remember that not one of us is without sin and we all answer to one MAKER.
And when depressing thoughts seem to get you down –
Put a smile on your face and thank GOD you’re alive and still around.

My 10 Commandments of Staying Healthy

* Eat Wisely
* Drink Plentifully (Water)
* Eliminate Thoroughly
* Bathe Cleanly
* Exercise Rationally
* Accept inevitable [Don’t worry be happy!]
* Play Enthusiastically
* Relax Completely
* Sleep Sufficiently
* Check up occassionally

Why? Because I’m WORTH IT!

Women Over 50

In case you missed it on 60 Minutes, this is what Andy Rooney thinks about women over 50.

“As I grow in age, I value women over 50 most of all. Here are just a few reasons why:

A woman over 50 will never wake you in the middle of the night & ask, ‘What are you thinking?’ She doesn’t care what you think.
If a woman over 50 doesn’t want to watch the game, she doesn’t sit around whining about it. She goes and does something, she wants to do, and it’s usually more interesting.
Women over 50 are dignified. They seldom have a screaming match with you at the opera or in the middle of an expensive restaurant.
Of course, if you deserve it, they won’t hesitate to shoot you, if they think they can get away with it.

Older women are generous with praise, often undeserved. They know what it’s like to be unappreciated. Women get psychic as they age. You never have to confess your sins to a woman over 50. Once you get past a wrinkle or two, a woman over 50 is far sexier than her younger counterpart. Older women are forthright and honest.
They’ll tell you right off if you are a jerk or if you are acting like one. You don’t ever have to wonder where you stand with her.
Yes, we praise women over 50 for a multitude of reasons. Unfortunately, it’s not reciprocal. For every stunning, smart, well-coiffed, hot woman over 50, there is a bald, paunchy relic in yellow pants making a fool of himself with some 22-year old waitress. Ladies, I apologize.

For all those men who say, Why buy the cow when you can get the milk for free? Here’s an update for you:

Nowadays, 80% of women are against marriage. Why?
Because women realize it’s not worth buying an entire pig just to get a little sausage!

Andy Rooney is a really smart guy and I am going to miss him!
Enjoy your retirement, Andy!

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